Even if we wish they were, our children will never be immune from the setbacks and failures inherent in life. And these setbacks could be experienced by our children very early on, whether they be in the form of friendship dramas, academic pressure, or internal self-doubt. Getting back up after a setback—what we call “resilience”—is, therefore, an important skill to teach our children. In this episode of Chatabout Children, we bring in author Michelle Mitchell to talk to us about how parents could help their children develop this very vital life skill.
Michelle Mitchell is an award-winning speaker, author, and educator who has incorporated years of grassroots experience into her books. After leaving her profession as a primary school teacher, Michelle focused on helping teenagers, particularly teenage girls, learn vital life skills to support them while at school. Her latest book, Everyday Resilience: Helping Kids Handle Friendship Drama, Academic Pressure, and the Self-Doubt of Growing Up, tackles the very interesting topic of teaching resilience to children and teenagers, and we ask her to talk more about this subject in this episode.
• How Michelle transitioned from being a primary school teacher to teaching kids how to be resilient
• What resilience is
• The importance and challenge of connecting with your child
• The seven characteristics of a resilient child
• Strategies on helping children develop resilience in their everyday lives
• Addressing a child’s “I can’t” mindset
• Why it’s okay for kids to start doing something poorly
• Perfectionism in kids
Michelle’s Take-Home Message for Parents and Educators
It’s all about connection. Connecting with our kids is vital. Kids need the loving support of adults in their life so that they are not afraid to take risks.
“In replace of being connected, sometimes we over-parent them, whereas we really need to be focusing on connection and allowing our children to fail.”
“Our kids need to feel claimed. They need to feel belonged to your family unit. They need to feel connected to us. And that’s hard work. There’s no way around it. It’s hard work.”
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